Couples Therapy Group
The couples that you see in restaurants, social events and your kids' school often present an "everything's beautiful" façade to the world. The reality is that they may be experiencing deep sadness and frustration inside. A bitter fight may occur on the drive to an event but they put on their smiling faces for their friends as they step out of the car. As they compare their relationship to all the other seemingly happy ones, they feel even worse.
A couples therapy group breaks through all the pretending. It is relieving to recognize that you are not alone and that your relationship is more normal than you realized. A couples group is a place where it is safe to be real in your relationship with your partner — in front of other people.
The format is as follows:
4 couples meet for two hours once monthly in my office in San Jose.
The group begins with a brief "relationship check in".
After this, there is a 20-30 minute training or discussion of a topic dealing with relationships. The topics will be based on your interest but typical include communication, forgiveness, sex, parenting, money, anger, emotional connection, chores, and making time for each other.
Following a 5 minute break, the rest of our time is devoted to one couple working with me on an issue in front of the group. You will be invited to volunteer and will NOT be put on the spot.
The last part of our time is for the group to voice an appreciation to the working couple for something they witnessed and to share what they got out of what they saw.
While this may seem intimidating, my hope is that you will feel the support of your peers as you deal with issues that most of you others share. We will create a safe place where you can be open and share meaningful experiences with each other.
The requirements are:
You must have an initial couple interview session with me, although this may not be needed for current or past clients.
You can not be in crisis.
You must be willing to commit to at least 8 sessions of couples group therapy.
You must be willing to commit to complete confidentiality of what is discussed during our group sessions.
Monthly, from 7pm to 9pm on the last Friday of the month. Once 4 couples have committed, we will begin on the last Friday of the following month.
Q: What’s the first step?
A: Fill out the contact form below and we will schedule an interview. Interviews are starting now and are $250 for a fifty-minute session. The cost of the interview will be refunded if the group is not the right fit for you. Also, current or former clients may not need an interview.
Q: What will the group cost?
A: The total group cost is $1,200/couple for eight two hour sessions, to be paid in two $600 installments. The initial interview with the couple is $250 for a 50 minute interview. No refunds once the group starts.
Q: My marriage is really struggling. Will we mess up the group?
A: Probably not but I'll help you figure that out in the interview.
Q: What if I am in individual therapy?
A: No problem. I can work with your individual therapist to make sure we are on the same page and support the work you are doing in your other therapy.
Q: What if I am super nervous about groups?
A: Great! This will help you have more comfort in every group you are a part of, maybe even in your family.
Q: What if I can’t come to all the groups?
A: You still need to pay the full amount. I will offer homework in between the sessions. Even if you miss one or two groups you will still benefit, though if you know in advance you’ll miss multiple sessions it may be best to wait for another round of the group.
Q: When does the group start?
A: Once I have put together a cohort of couples who are ready to go on this journey together, I will get things rolling. I’ll make sure to keep you posted, and give you a heads up so you can make the necessary arrangements to ensure your participation.
Q: Will members come and go?
A: No. This group is what is called a closed group. The members you meet on the first day are the ones that will be with you the whole time unless they drop out, and no new members will be added. The group will be limited to 4 couples, giving you ample time and space to be heard.
Q: I am not in a relationship but want to be. Can I still come?
A: Unfortunately not. This group is for couples only. I may start a different group for people seeking relationships so let me know if this is of interest.