Couples Therapy Group
The couples that you see in restaurants, social events and your kids' school often present an "everything's beautiful" façade to the world. The reality is that they may be experiencing deep sadness and frustration inside. A bitter fight may occur on the drive to an event but they put on their smiling faces for their friends as they step out of the car. Sadly, as they compare their relationship to all the other seemingly happy ones, they feel even worse.
A couples therapy group breaks through all the pretending.
It is relieving to recognize that you are not alone and that your struggles sound pretty much just like other couples. A couples therapy group is a place where it is safe to be real in your relationship with your partner — in front of other people.
The format is as follows:
4 couples meet for 1 hour and 20 minutes once monthly on Zoom.
The group begins with a brief "relationship check in".
After this, there is a 20 minute training or discussion of a topic dealing with relationships. The topics will be based on your interest but typically include communication, forgiveness, sex, parenting, money, anger, emotional connection, chores, and making time for each other.
The rest of our time is devoted to one couple working with me on an issue in front of the group. You will be invited to volunteer and will NOT be put on the spot.
The last part of our time is for the group to voice an appreciation to the working couple for something they witnessed and to share what they got out of what they saw.
While this may seem intimidating, my hope is that you will feel the support of your peers as you deal with issues that most of you others share. We will create a safe place where you can be open and share meaningful experiences with each other.
The requirements are:
You must have an initial couple interview session with me, although this may not be needed for current or past clients.
You can not be in crisis. I will help you define this.
You must be willing to commit to at least 6 sessions of couples group therapy.
You must be willing to commit to complete confidentiality of what is discussed during our group sessions.
Weekly, Wednesday nights from 7pm to 8:20pm. Once 4 couples have committed, we will begin.
FAQ'S ABOUT GROUP
Q: What’s the first step?
A: Fill out the contact form below and we will schedule an initial couple therapy session. Initial sessions are starting now and are $300 for a fifty-minute session. Also, current or former clients will not need an interview.
Q: What will the group cost?
A: $800/couple for 6 sessions, due at the first session. If you are not a current client, the initial interview with the couple is $300 for a 50 minute interview. No refunds once the group starts.
Q: My marriage is really struggling. Will we mess up the group?
A: Probably not but I'll help you figure out if this is a good fit in the initial therapy session.
Q: What if I am in individual therapy?
A: No problem. I can work with your individual therapist to make sure we are on the same page and support the work you are doing in your other therapy.
Q: What if I am super nervous about groups?
A: Then joining the group will require courage on your part but, rest assured, the group will work hard to support you. This may help you have more comfort in other groups that you are a part of, maybe even in your family.
Q: What if I can’t come to all the groups?
A: You still need to pay the full amount. I will offer homework in between the sessions. Even if you miss one or two groups you will still benefit, though if you know in advance you’ll miss multiple sessions it may be best to wait for another round of the group.
Q: When does the group start?
A: Once I have put together a cohort of couples who are ready to go on this journey together, I will get things rolling. I’ll make sure to keep you posted, and give you a heads up so you can make the necessary arrangements to ensure your participation.
Q: Will members come and go?
A: No. This group is what is called a closed group. The members you meet on the first day are the ones that will be with you the whole time unless they drop out, and no new members will be added. The group will be limited to 4 couples, giving you ample time and space to be heard.
Q: I am not in a relationship but want to be. Can I still come?
A: Unfortunately not. This group is for couples only. I may start a different group for people seeking relationships so let me know if this is of interest.