Couples Therapy Groups
The couples that you see in restaurants, social events and your kids' school often present an "everything's beautiful" façade to the world. The reality is that they may be experiencing deep sadness and frustration inside. A bitter fight may occur on the drive to an event but they put on their smiling faces for their friends as they step out of the car. As they compare their relationship to all the other seemingly happy ones, they feel even worse.
A couples' therapy group breaks through all the pretending. It is relieving to recognize that you are not alone and that your relationship is more normal than you realized. A couples' group is a place where it is safe to be real in your relationship with your partner — in front of other people.
The format is as follows:
4 couples meet for two hours once monthly in my office in San Jose.
The group begins with a "relationship check in" (how each relationship is faring in general), followed by each person expressing an appreciation to their partner for one thing they appreciated but didn't take the time to articulate.
After this, there is a 20-30 minute discussion of a text dealing with relationships.
Following a 10 minute break, the second half is devoted to one couple working with me on an issue in front of the group. It ends with the group voicing appreciation to the working couple for something they witnessed in the work.
While this may seem intimidating, most of my clients feel that couples' work is enhanced when it is conducted in front of other couples. You will feel the love and support of your peers as you deal with your issues you know others share. My main focus is to create a safe place where you can be open and share meaningful experiences with each other.
The requirements are:
You must have had the initial 80 minute couples session with me and be familiar with my reflective listening communication exercise.
You can not be in crisis. I will help you define this.
You must be willing to commit to 6 months of couples group therapy.
You must be willing to commit to complete confidentiality of what is discussed during our group sessions.
From 7pm to 9pm on the last Friday of the month. The next group is scheduled to begin on August 28, 2015.
The cost is $600 for 6 months ($100 / couple per month). The entire fee is due at the first session.
If this sounds interesting to you, please call me and we can discuss the next steps.