Divorce Recovery

Divorce is one of the most stressful and painful life events that a person will ever experience. Even when accompanied by good reasons or positive feelings, it is still the death of a dream and the end of one’s hope for the relationship. Whether the ending is sudden or anticipated, the wound can be deep. Divorce counseling can help individuals cope and move past a divorce.


The grief that arises is often overwhelming. Sometimes accompanied by anger or other feelings, grief can be expressed in various areas of life. A person might experience loneliness, anxiety, or fear. Individuals typically also feel physiological effects of divorce, such as significant muscle tension and an increased likelihood of physical illness. Once a person is no longer part of a couple, fears about finances, relationships, and even questions about identity can surface. Those going through a separation commonly experience disturbances in sleeping, eating, and the ability to focus.


What You Can Expect with Divorce Recovery Counseling

I offer divorce recovery counseling that will chart a path to divorce recovery and help you to:


  • Understand the breakdown in your marriage

  • Establish a productive and civil relationship with your Ex

  • Vent your feelings in a safe and healing environment

  • Shift your negative beliefs and perceptions about your divorce

  • Re-structure and rebuild your new life

  • Manage your outer world while you deal with your inner world

  • Learn and grow from your experience of divorce

  • Divorce with integrity

  • Find the best ways to support your children

  • Be an effective single parent

  • Let go of the past and create a better future


The divorce recovery process will enable you to move from simply coping and surviving to leading a life in which you feel empowered, fulfilled, and independent, and are involved in relationships that are enriching and loving. I often work in conjunction with group-based Divorce Recovery programs (I am on the board of Calvary Church's program). An important role that I play as your individual therapist is to help you get “unstuck” so that you can realize your potential. My approach recognizes that an individual who is going through a divorce experiences sadness, self-blame, anxiety, shame, guilt, rage, and a variety of other painful emotions that at times may feel overwhelming. The goal is not to help you simply suppress or distract yourself from your pain, but to help you work through these feelings so that you can feel free, whole, and in control of your life. 

Change begins by taking the first step.
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Dr. Harry Motro is part of the Couples Recovery Center which provides specialized couples counseling and includes the following professionals:


If you are interested in joining our team, apply here.

If you are in crisis, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, a free, 24-hour hotline at 1.800.273.8255.  If your issue is an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.  Dr. Motro does not offer crisis counseling or emergency services.


Dr. Harry Motro, Marriage Counselor, is an employee of Harry Motro, Psy.D., Marriage and Family Therapist, P.C., (a Professional Corporation), which does business as the Couples Recovery Center. Dr. Motro practices at 3880 South Bascom Drive, Suite 216, San Jose, CA,95124, is Licensed as a Marriage Family Therapist MFC 53452 and authorized to act as a Psychotherapist providing Psychotherapy. He specializes in Couples Counseling. In addition to dealing with couples and relationship issues, Dr. Motro is trained to treat anxiety, panic attacks, post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, bi-polar, ADHD, Asperger's, sex difficulties, anger regulation issues, affair fallout, divorce recovery, self-esteem, addiction, co-dependency, trauma, abuse, eating disorders, and managing grief and loss. These issues often arise in couples counseling and will be dealt with as part of your therapy. If you search for counseling San Jose, marriage counselor San Jose, couples counselor San Jose, psychotherapy San Jose, psychotherapist San Jose, therapist San Jose, counselor San Jose, couples therapist San Jose, couples counselor San Jose, marriage therapy San Jose, life coach San Jose, career coach San Jose, executive coach San Jose, you can find Dr. Harry Motro's web site. In addition to serving San Jose, Harry serves clients in Campbell, Los Gatos, Saratoga, Willow Glen, Milpitas, Mountain View, Monte Sereno, Cupertino, Scotts Valley, Felton, Sunnyvale, Morgan Hill, Fremont, Los Altos, and Gilroy, California. Dr. Motro also provides  Mountain Bike Therapy. The recommendations on this website do not constitute professional advice, substitute for professional treatment, or establish a therapeutic relationship.

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