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If you are in crisis, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, a free, 24-hour hotline at 1.800.273.8255.  If your issue is an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.  Dr. Motro does not offer crisis counseling or emergency services.

Dr. Harry Motro, Marriage Counselor, is an employee of Harry Motro, Psy.D., Marriage and Family Therapist, P.C., which is a Professional Corporation.  Dr. Motro practices at 3880 South Bascom Drive, Suite 111, San Jose, CA,95124, is Licensed as a Marriage Family Therapist MFC 53452 and authorized to act as a Psychotherapist providing Psychotherapy. He specializes in Couples Counseling.   In addition to dealing with couples and relationship issues, Dr. Motro is trained to treat anxiety, panic attacks, post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, bi-polar, ADHD, Asperger's, sex difficulties, anger regulation issues, affair fallout, divorce recovery, self-esteem, addiction, co-dependency, trauma, abuse, eating disorders, and managing grief and loss. These issues often arise in couples counseling and will be dealt with as part of your therapy. If you search for counseling San Jose, marriage counselor San Jose, couples counselor San Jose, psychotherapy San Jose, psychotherapist San Jose, therapist San Jose, counselor San Jose, couples therapist San Jose, couples counselor San Jose, marriage therapy San Jose, life coach San Jose, career coach San Jose, executive coach San Jose, you can find Dr. Harry Motro's web site. In addition to serving San Jose, Harry serves clients in Campbell, Los Gatos, Saratoga, Willow Glen, Milpitas, Mountain View, Monte Sereno, Cupertino, Scotts Valley, Felton, Sunnyvale, Morgan Hill, Fremont, Los Altos, and Gilroy, California. Dr. Motro also provides  Mountain Bike Therapy. The recommendations on this website do not constitute professional advice, substitute for professional treatment, or establish a therapeutic relationship.

Rosario Puga-Dempsey, Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, is supervised by and works for Harry Motro, Psy.D., Marriage and Family Therapist, P.C., (License #53452) which is a Professional Corporation. She can be reached at Her email is and her phone # is 408 768 5300.

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Books for Children – Divorce

Young Children - (Ages 4-9)

  • Mama and Daddy Bear’s Divorce

  • Cornelia Maude Spelman

  • Dinosaurs Divorce (ages 4-9)

  • Lauren Krasny and Mark Brown

  • Two Homes

  • Claire Masurel

  • Arthur and the 1,001 Dads

  • Marc Tolon Brown

  • Help Me Understand:  A Child’s Book About Divorce  (Christian)

  • Amy Ross Munford

Children - Ages 7-12

  • Ginny Morris and Mom’s House, Dad’s House

  • Mary Collins Gallager

  • Amber Brown Goes Forth

  • Paula Danzinger

  • The Day My Mother Left

  • James Prosek

  • Kaline Katter master’s Tree House

  • Haven Kimmel

  • It’s Not the End of the World

  • Judy Blume

  • Don’t Make Me Smile

  • Barbara Park

  • Taking Sides

  • Norma Klein

  • My Parents are Divorced, Too: A Book for Kids by Kids

  • Jan Blackstone-Ford

  • Don’t Fall Apart on Saturday’s: The Children’s Divorce-Survival Book

  • Norma Klein

  • What Makes Me Feel This Way?

  • Eda LeShan


  • Gateway

  • Lee Robinson

  • How it Feels When Parents Divorce

  • Jill Krementz

  • Healing the Hurt, Help for Teenagers Whose Parents Are Divorced  (Christian)

  • Mildred Tickfer

  • Divorce is Not the End of the World:  Zoe’s and Evan’s Coping Guide for Kids

  • Zoe and Evan Stern

  • Dear Mr. Henshaw  (Novel)

  • Beverly Cleary

Voice of the Child of Divorce

Successful Co-Parenting A Child's View

Tips for Successful Co-parenting - Coparenting Quadrant

Deena Stacer

Co-Parenting as Allies, not Adversaries | Ebony Roberts & Shaka Senghor | TEDxDetroit

Dr. Phil Gives Exes Advice for Co-Parenting

Co-Parenting With A Controlling Ex

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Co-Parenting Counseling is a specialized form of counseling for parents who are in the process of getting divorced, already divorced, or no longer living together and recognize that raising children can become a daunting task. Communicating about, negotiating over and caring for the children are areas filled with potential conflict. It is easy for parents to make the assumption that, when things aren't going well with their children, it is the other parent's fault. It is easy for old conflicts to re-surface. Unfortunately parents usually resort to relying on the court to resolve the disagreement. This has the risk of exacerbating the conflict. Often lost in the conflict are the children who are caught in a web of arguments.


There is an extensive catalog of research that reports that children thrive when the adults can model effective conflict resolution strategies. If we realize that the most important job a parent has is the successful raising of their children, we can begin to look at co-parenting as a business partnership. Parents must develop skills similar to a business partnership. An inability to manage conflict undermines the children's well being and makes the parents unhappy. Parents who continue to be preoccupied with anger, resentment and contempt are unable to successfully move on with their lives.


Many parents are referred to Co-parent Counseling as part of a court order. These parents can sometimes arrive more battered from the legal conflict they have been experiencing. Working with clients in this situation, I help them develop stress management skills that would help de-escalate the situation before jumping into the goal setting stage. Sometimes the focus for these families is to help develop strategies for sharing information and work out details of the parenting plan. Other times the court orders the parents to develop the parenting plan with the assistance of a co-parent counselor.


I assist parents in developing the co-parenting plan, an agreement of where and when the children will be living. I also help parents have conversations about health, special needs of the children, educational issues, extracurricular activities and rest. It is important to:

  • Consider your children’s ages, personalities, experiences, and abilities. Every child is different. Adjust your plan to your children, NOT your children to your plan.

  • Give your children regular, consistent times with each of you for day-to-day care, overnights, activities, schoolwork, vacations, and holidays. 

  • Give your co-parenting plan enough detail so it is easy to understand and enforce.

  • Give your children a sense of security and a reliable routine.

If you would like to discuss co-parenting issues with me, please give me a call.