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If you are in crisis, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, a free, 24-hour hotline at 1.800.273.8255.  If your issue is an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.  Dr. Motro does not offer crisis counseling or emergency services.

Dr. Harry Motro, Marriage Counselor, is an employee of Harry Motro, Psy.D., Marriage and Family Therapist, P.C., which is a Professional Corporation.  Dr. Motro practices at 3880 South Bascom Drive, Suite 111, San Jose, CA,95124, is Licensed as a Marriage Family Therapist MFC 53452 and authorized to act as a Psychotherapist providing Psychotherapy. He specializes in Couples Counseling.   In addition to dealing with couples and relationship issues, Dr. Motro is trained to treat anxiety, panic attacks, post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, bi-polar, ADHD, Asperger's, sex difficulties, anger regulation issues, affair fallout, divorce recovery, self-esteem, addiction, co-dependency, trauma, abuse, eating disorders, and managing grief and loss. These issues often arise in couples counseling and will be dealt with as part of your therapy. If you search for counseling San Jose, marriage counselor San Jose, couples counselor San Jose, psychotherapy San Jose, psychotherapist San Jose, therapist San Jose, counselor San Jose, couples therapist San Jose, couples counselor San Jose, marriage therapy San Jose, life coach San Jose, career coach San Jose, executive coach San Jose, you can find Dr. Harry Motro's web site. In addition to serving San Jose, Harry serves clients in Campbell, Los Gatos, Saratoga, Willow Glen, Milpitas, Mountain View, Monte Sereno, Cupertino, Scotts Valley, Felton, Sunnyvale, Morgan Hill, Fremont, Los Altos, and Gilroy, California. Dr. Motro also provides  Mountain Bike Therapy. The recommendations on this website do not constitute professional advice, substitute for professional treatment, or establish a therapeutic relationship.

Rosario Puga-Dempsey, Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, is supervised by and works for Harry Motro, Psy.D., Marriage and Family Therapist, P.C., (License #53452) which is a Professional Corporation. She can be reached at https://www.rosariopuga.com/. Her email is crc.rosariopuga@gmail.com and her phone # is 408 768 5300.

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Using Telehealth on a personal computer

You will set up a session using my on-line portal like you always do. Then send me an email to let me know you would like to make it an on-line appointment. Once this is done, 

To join a Telehealth call on your computer, there is nothing you will have to install or download. You can begin your Telehealth appointments simply by clicking a link. 

You will automatically receive an email and/or text reminder for Telehealth appointments 10 minutes prior to their start time, as long as the appointment was set up before the email/text reminder window.

The text reminder directs you to check your email, while the email reminder includes the link to join the video call. This email reminder is sent in addition to any email, text, and/or voice reminders you are set up to receive.

The reminder email will include details about the appointment, as well as the link to join the video call:

 

 

When you click the Join Video Call link, a new tab will open in yourr browser that looks the same as what I see. Just enter your name and then click Join Video Call.  

Using Telehealth on a mobile device

You also have the option to download the Telehealth by SimplePractice mobile app to join the video call from a smartphone or tablet. You can download it from the app store. Once you have the app, follow these steps:

  • Open the email reminder you received for the appointment

  • Click Join video call 

  • The Telehealth by SimplePractice app will launch automatically 

    • The first time you launch the Telehealth app, you'll see a Welcome screen

  • Enter your name for the call

  • Click Enter Video Call 

Here is a helpful PDF which gives guidance on your upcoming video session.

Video Therapy for Couples 

UNCERTAINTY AND CHANGE

Due to the novel Coronavirus, we are all facing stress levels that are much higher than usual. You may be filled with uncertainty, and feel triggered by the constant stream of bad news and rapidly changing restrictions to our lives. As of this writing, Santa Clara County has placed a “shelter in place” order.  This directs everyone to stay inside their homes and away from others as much as possible until April 7, 2020. 

Here is a very helpful downloadable guide called "Living with worry and anxiety amidst global uncertainty".

TURNING A CHALLENGE INTO AN OPPORTUNITY

This new reality can place a real strain on navigating your most important relationships. In addition to normal challenges in life, couples are also experiencing:

  • disagreements about the severity of the Coronavirus,

  • arguments about ways to deal with day-to-day decisions regarding safety,

  • tension about finances,

  • fear about loved ones' health,

  • feelings of isolation,

  • anxiety that shows up as irritability and anger...

  • and the list goes on and on. 

Here are two excellent videos on how to diffuse fights during this time:

1) Fight about strict we should be in our sheltering

https://youtu.be/bp2NWE5AItE?t=543

The main points are agree to disagree and opt for safety during a crisis.

2) When you feel anxious, here's some coping strategies.

https://youtu.be/Jh4hSMBbHJ0

The main points are figure out what you're feeling and then, when you're both in a good place, express them to your spouse. Make the virus the enemy, not your spouse.

Please know that I am available to support you using Teletherapy (Video or Phone). In fact, I encourage you to use this time at home better your communication, improve your marriage and strengthen your family. 

VIDEO COUPLES THERAPY

I use SimplePractice Telehealth, which is based on a Zoom platform and is compliant with industry standards (HIPAA). In order to take advantage of telehealth services, all you need is a computer or smartphone with a working webcam and access to high speed internet or good cell reception. 

LIMITATIONS OF VIDEO

Children:

The most common obstacle is a concern about interruption from children. There are several ways to deal with this. First, if you are interrupted, we pause for a moment, ask the kids to leave, and then restart. It's not ideal but we usually recover quickly. Second, depending on the age of the children, you can ask them to not disturb you in advance. Clearly explain that you are working on your communication with each other. This sets a great example of working on relationships for their later lives.

 

Technology: 

There are several limitations to online couples counseling that you should be aware of. At a most basic level, you need to be willing to have an open mind to building emotional connections using technology. Often, clients talk themselves out of trying online counseling because they think “they’ll be talking to a computer.” Many of these folks are pleasantly surprised by how easy it is once they get started. In fact, some clients actually feel more comfortable being in the privacy of their own living room.

Security and Privacy:

Even though I use a well established service, SimplePractice based on Zoom, it is never 100% risk free. Even the most secure system can be hacked. I hope this does not deter you but I feel it's my duty to mention it.

BENEFITS OF VIDEO

The benefits of video therapy can be tremendous. You can maintain the progress in therapy that you've already invested in. If you're new to therapy, you begin the process of healing and growth in the comfort of your own home. 

If you would like to schedule a session, please click here.