Did you begin with BIG DREAMS?
Now feeling EXHAUSTED and DISAPPOINTED?
Reinvent your most important relationship.
Dr. Harry Motro
PsyD, Marriage and Family Therapist, P.C.
Working with a COUPLES SPECIALIST gives you the BEST CHANCE to heal your relationship.
“Love me when I least deserve it, because that’s when I really need it.”
FOCUS & PASSION
My practice is completely focused on serving couples. Working with couples can be challenging when compared to individual counseling. Please don't settle for a therapist who helps couples on the side. By concentrating only on couples, I believe that I am better equipped to help you.
My #1 sub-specialty is walk with couples through a structured AFFAIR RECOVERY PROCESS.
Because infidelity profoundly damages the trust at the center of a couple’s connection, we work to rebuild the relationship that is based on a completely new understanding of yourselves. All the while, I will help you establish a safe, non-judgmental place to process the swirling emotions of anger, sadness, loss, desperation, guilt, shame and blame.
With hard work and humility, you will find a path to a new understanding of the affair, to grieving, and to healing together.
My #2 sub-specialty is helping NEURODIVERSE COUPLES learn how to stop blaming each other and, instead, see your differences through a new lens, and discover concrete ways to consistently connect with each other which seemed impossible before therapy.
This work requires a deep understanding and appreciation of Asperger's and a specialized approach. I love working with neurodiverse couples because I get to witness the tremendous relief that comes from recognizing the real issues that cause a couple to struggle and productively addressing them.
DEEP COUPLES TRAINING
I have received specialized training in couples therapy as part of my Doctorate of Clinical Psychology (PsyD) and Master's in Counseling Psychology (MA). I am also licensed as a Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and teach marriage therapy to graduate students as an Adjunct Professor.
COUPLES CONTENT LIBRARY
In order to improve in any area in life, it is important to learn the basic skills and practice the fundamentals. Most couples think that this doesn't apply to relationships but, actually, it can make the difference between a happy and unhappy relationship.
Our team of couples counselors have developed a Couples Content Library which is full of exercises for couples that will help you master the fundamentals of healthy relationships. You will be trained on tools that apply specifically to your situation. Also, you will have access to the entire suite of tools to use at your convenience, even after we have ended therapy together.
EXTEND THERAPY BETWEEN SESSIONS
Many therapists work with you in their office or on Zoom and then just hope you can "REMEMBER" the experience between sessions. With me, after each session, you will end each session with clearly explained tasks to attempt at home.
In fact, you will do far more work between sessions than during sessions. This way you can find out what works in your real life. Couples tell me that this makes a difference in maintaining their progress over years so that the therapy work "sticks".
EVIDENCE-BASED PRACTICES - EMOTION-FOCUSED THERAPY
I use scientifically-validated psychotherapy techniques for couples which have been proven effective through decades of research with thousands of couples. My core approach is built on Emotion-Focused Therapy-EFT with components of Gottman Method, Internal Family Systems, and Imago Therapy added in when it is helpful.
There are no guarantees but having an experienced couples therapist applying an evidence-based approach gives you a realistic chance to reach your goals.
TOUGH ISSUES: STRUCTURE + TENDER HEART
I am often the third or fourth couples counselor for a couple because I take on "tough" cases that have been difficult for other therapists.
In these situations, I work hard to create a safe structured healing environment so we can productively deal with extremely challenging situations. In fact, the tougher the situation, the more tenderness is needed.
Some of the difficult cases included:
completely broken communication,
a devastating affair,
verbal or physical abuse,
harsh co-parenting conflicts,
a painful divorce,
isolation due to a neurodiverse relationship, and
the loss of a child.
I believe that all people, no matter what they believe, are worthy of love and respect. Because of this, I promise to fully accept you exactly as you are, expecting to see both amazing strengths and glaring imperfections.
Bringing your spiritual journey into therapy is COMPLETELY your choice. My aim is to serve you as a trustworthy resource for professional care whether you have a faith background or not.
OVER 3 DECADES OF MARRIAGE EXPERIENCE
Being married for 36 years and having raised children to adulthood, I have certainly made my fair share of mistakes and have learned how to turn that into growth. My work with you is built upon decades of real life experience, not just textbook knowledge.